Finally, Someone Said It.

My Facebook newsfeed is being abused. More often than not, it's full of people I haven't talked to since high school, and they're usually complaining about something stupid. Why do I keep them around? Well, sometimes it's down-right entertaining (____ hopes her hubby don't go 2 jail 2-morrow).

One of my Facebook friends posted a CNN article entitled "The 12 Most Annoying Types of Facebookers." So, which one are you?:

The Let-Me-Tell-You-Every-Detail-of-My-Day Bore

The Self-Promoter

The Friend-Padder

The Town Crier

The TMIer

The Bad Grammarian

The Sympathy-Baiter

The Lurker

The Crank

The Paparazzo

The Maddening Obscurist

The Chronic Inviter

You know them all. Not sure which one you are? There's even a quiz. I took it and it basically told me I'm cool... like I didn't already know that! Ha! It's worth taking a few minutes to read. Hilarious.

XOXO

Listen Up, Ladies!

I've always been a firm believer in confidence. In high school I went shopping with my friend Abby and I bought a rockin' pair of sunglasses. I got home and showed them to my mom and the first thing she said was, "those are hideous." Thanks, Mom! I refused to believe her. I wore those sunglasses everywhere and received compliments from everyone! You want to know why? Because I wore them like they were the coolest sunglasses in the world... and suddenly... they were cool.

I tried this out with my big move to law school. A new group of people. A new chance to make a first impression. Usually I would just sit there quietly and wait for people to approach me. Not this time. I marched in with a smile on my face and said "hi!" to everyone I saw. I pretended that I was cool (and occasionally told people that I was) and suddenly, they accepted me as "cool."

Amazing how that works, huh? This morning as I was going through the blogs that I read daily, it hit me for the first time that this idea can also work in reverse. Females are all-too-often quick to point out their flaws. I notice myself doing this a lot. If I think I look gross, I'm really quick to tell people so that they know that I know. I'm not fishing for compliments, but rather letting people know that I am well aware of my shortcomings.

Which leads me to this link. Think about it. How many times have you had this conversation:

A: You look nice today!
YOU: Ugh. I feel so fat!

So, ladies... starting today, I'm going to stop announcing the things that I don't like about myself. Who's with me?? It's time to walk into the room like you own it. A wise Anna Stern once said, "Confidence, Cohen... Confidence!" And I think the same applies to you!